Toughen up: Triggers and trigger warnings

This is going to be the first post in my ‘toughen up’ series where I tell you my experiences with overly sensitive people and how you and others can toughen up with certain issues.

Triggers and trigger warnings is a topic that very many people are constantly in hot debate about and is also something that makes my blood boil every time I hear it.
The reason that I am bringing this up is because the phrase “Im so triggered” is being not only overused within the LGBT community but it is also being abused. Although triggers do exist and are completely valid, there are multiple times where telling someone that you are triggered by a certain thought or word is completely and absolutely inappropriate and downright disrespectful.

First example that I have where trigger warnings were inappropriately used is when I was scrolling through my instagram.
Being a model, youtube, and makeup artist, I naturally have many very attractive female friends whom I follow on social media.
One day I was scrolling through my Instagram feed, liking my friend’s photos and leaving comments as I would usually do when all of a sudden I hear someone yelling at me “YOU ARE SUCH A MISOGYNIST AND ARE OBJECTIFYING WOMEN!!!! I’M SO TRIGGERED”
I told the person to go screw off as there is nothing wrong with liking and commenting on photos on Instagram and especially so since the girls whose photos I was liking and commenting on where my friends.
Not only did I have every right to do whatever the hell I want in my own social media, but the person had absolutely no right or reason to be looking over my shoulder and monitoring what I was doing on my phone.

The second example was when I was talking about my weight loss.
I had recently lost 5 pounds so I was telling my friends about it since it is a significant event for me as I am pre-diabetic.
As I was telling my friends on how I lost the weight, another person decided to butt in and say “I’m very triggered by what you are talking about so you need to change topics”
Not only was I very taken aback by the comment but I was also rather livid as the person had no reason or business listening in on my achievements. Instead of congratulating on my successes they decided to try to bring me back down.
The conversation that I was having with my friends was of absolutely no concern to the person. I cannot help but think that such a person is nothing more than insecure about their own weight and wants nothing more but to bring me down to their level.

The third example is when I was talking about makeup and heels with my friends. This clearly offended someone as that particular someone decided to come over to me and my group to tell me to stop talking about makeup and heels as it was “triggering” to them.
Safe to say that I gave them a few glances up and down before telling them off.

What I am trying to say here is that although triggers are real, there is absolutely no reason where you should be going to other people and telling them that what they are talking about if it makes you a bit uncomfortable.
There are people who have actual triggers and going around screaming “I’m triggered” about the smallest most minor situations is not only going to make you look like a complete idiot, but it is also disrespectful to those who have actual triggers in life. You’ll not only make them look bad but also keep them from getting the compensation that they need in order to function regularly in life.

With all of that being said, make sure to respect others and their patience as not many people are not as calm and collected as I am.



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